"The pharisees were hypocrites."
"Millenials are lazy and entitled."
"Feminists are ugly, fat, man-hating bitches."
"All men are rapists in waiting."
The moment you put people into those neat little categories, you have already lost.
Thinking in groups, and then pitching them against each other, is one of the worst mistakes human beings make - every one of us, including myself.
And we make it an awful lot.
Why is it a mistake? Because it simply ain't true, that's why. It makes us make bad decisions.
Beliefs that don't accurately reflect reality, can cause bad decisions.
My favourite example is from the New Testament: The pharisees are consistently characterized as hypocrites. But, wait a sec - the pharisees were a group of maybe 2000-3000 people or so... can you honestly say that you believe that that many people were being hypocritical, and nothing but hypocritical, for all their life? While everybody else was superduper honest and good?
The answer is, of course, no. It's a piece of ideological hyperbole, of rhetoric.
Some pharisees sure acted like hypocrites in certain situations.
Just like everybody else. Just like I do. Just like you do.
The categorization of a group as hypocrites, or as "entitled", is simply wrong.
The categorization of a specific action as hypocritical is possibly correct, and can be productive.
Yet, we need group categorization for fast decisions, especially in semergency situations: "Can I trust this guy in uniform?" - "Should I run from this guy who looks like a drug addict?"
We do it more when we are emotionally upset. As long as there's no "clear and present danger", the right thing to do would be to let the emotions settle, and only then engage in thinking and decision-making.
We also do it out of sheer mindlessness, intellectual laziness. It takes effort to correct one's prejudice. It's work, actual, real, hard work, to get over it. And you can't ever say that you've finished your work. Never.
I suggest that we learn to be aware of our neat little categories, and whenever we meat someone from one of those groups, allow them the chance to prove us wrong.
I suggest that we learn to attack actions and opinions, with vigour and even mercilessly at times - but never people.
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