I'm hazarding a guess: When you're standing on a busy street and smiling because you can feel pleasure all down through your body to the tip of your toes, you might have done somethhing and achieved a lot.

The real oddity is that you deliberately make yourself open, vulnerable, receptive, sensitive and soft, and by doing so you gradually become bolder, stronger, and more assertive.


It's the grass that grows through the concrete.

A real odd thing

This is really just breathing, and stroking, and clenching your PC muscle. THAT'S IT. We would like to have it more complicated, to have more techniques - and yes, these techniques do exist and are useful. But basically, it's breathing, stroking, clenching muscles. And so much enjoyment can come from it.

Okay, it's breathing, stroking, clenching AND FOCUS ON INTERNAL FEELINGS. Given that I have a few years of regular zen meditation under the belt, this will probably help with the last part enormously.

But really, THAT'S IT!

I'm not claiming that all the good stuff that happened recently, like getting to know way more people (yes that includes young pretty females of the species), becoming more bold and assertive on the job, getting more done on my private projects, doing more sports, adhering more to my diet, etc. .... I'm not claiming that all this is due to tantra. I think this is a system of mutual reinforcement, a feedback loop... what the tantra adds is the good feeling of being able to produce good feelings at will. (Notice what I did there? *g*). From that comes more boldness, which helps with the sport and diet routine, which in turn produce more good feelings and make it seem easier to do more tantra, and so on.

It's one part, not the whole thing, to be sure. But it's a highly useful part!

Other blogs / links related to tantra

This is really just a starting point for a list... I'm hoping to amend this and be able to comment on it later on...


English language:

• http://www.sacred-texts.com/bud/tib/tantra.htm - intense reading; very insightful, from a "believer's" perspective
• http://www.nerve.com/love-sex/i-did-it-for-science/i-did-it-for-science - fun article about a first encounter with tantra
• http://www.ecstaticliving.com/blog/ - blog
• http://quantumtantra.blogspot.com/ - blog
• http://www.umaatantra.com/tantra_tips.html - blog
• http://www.thetantricpath.com/videos/ - one of the many therapeutic approaches to tantra.
• Because about.com is always a good place to start... the approach they describe is slightly different than the one I'm promoting here. But it's all about experimentation, and ultimately about feeling good!
• http://medical-dictionary.thefreedictionary.com/Tantric+Sex
• http://www.sexualshaman.com/
• http://www.tantracafe.com/

German language:

• http://www.no-guru.net/blog/ - blog
• http://www.tantra-blog.de/ - blog
• http://www.liesenfeld.de/blog/ - blog
• http://www.advaita-tantra.de/wordpress/ - blog
• http://lakshmi-tantra.blogspot.com/ - blog
• http://www.tantra-wien.at/massage/ - blog of a tantric massage studio
• http://www.tantrawien.com/forum/ - used to be a (not very lively) forum; now dead

Hey, another "skeptic":

• http://occultskpetic.wordpress.com/2011/09/23/the-five-resolutions-of-tantrika/

It is... weird... when you realize that you have no urge for ejaculation; when your orgasms do take place only inside. I'd have thought it feels "female", but that isn't correct. It feels deliberating. An interesting aside: Since you don't need an erection for it, you can probably do that for all of your life.

Most of all, it feels empowering.

A few news

It is utterly refreshing to encounter a tantric masseuse with a good sense of humour. Down to earth, slightly edgy humour. Yes, that means you, "N". We had lots of fun together, didn't we?

And also, I enjoyed the utter honesty with which she admitted that this is not "authentic tantra". It sure isn't. It's sensual massage with a spiritual bent. It is utterly exciting, and extremely relaxing. It is great for the body and excellent for the soul. But it surely has next to nothing to do with traditional indian tantra. "N" even said that a few indians came to her place, to find out what europeans mean by the term, "tantra". According to her, the consensus was that it's completely unauthentic, but utterly enjoyable. Sounds cool to me!

And also, the different styles of different tantrikas!

"M" is lascivious, forceful, dominant, and uses her whole body as an instrument.

"N" is more subtle, more refined.

With "M", you get a full-body massage with a happy ending, and she'll happily invade your ass for a "prostate massage" that is quite reminiscent of a dominatrix.

With "N", you will not get the happy ending, but boy will she give your lingam a good time. I wanted it to end, I wanted to cum, and at the same time, I wanted it to go on and on and on... Now, this is what I refer to as fun!

It has also inspired me to go further down that road. I want that energy, I want that feeling, I want that!